Self-confidence is one of those virtues that make all the difference in our life. It brings a feeling of power and control over the situation. It makes you feel good and sure of yourself.
But are you managing to lead a self-confident life?
It may be that insecurity is much more present in your life and you want to change that.
That is why I am writing this article.
Living with insecurity generates negative energy in the body. It causes anxiety . It seems like there is something that gets repressed that you would like to put out and you just can’t.
But why does this happen?
The first thing to consider is how you are characterizing this insecurity in your reality.
For example, if you simply consider yourself an insecure person, you may be putting an overly generic stamp on yourself.
The truth is that no one is insecure at all.
I’m sure I can list several situations where you are a safe person.
For example, are you insecure about eating, showering or tying your shoes? I do not think so.
These are all things you can do calmly and easily without being afraid.
For example, if you know how to drive you will feel confident in doing this activity. If you don’t know, you will feel insecure.
There are people who feel very confident using the computer. Others are afraid of the machine.
This shows that we cannot characterize ourselves as being generally insecure. We may be insecure in some areas while being extremely self-confident in others.
Therefore, I bring here some tips on how to feel confident so that you can raise this morale.
1) Develop competence
For me, one of the best ways to gain self-confidence is by developing competence.
To do this, first map which areas you feel most insecure about. Then start to develop your competence in each one.
Any area you want to have more self-confidence in requires more practice. The more you practice and learn the more you will develop the skill and the greater your self-confidence.
This logic applies to the most different themes: playing a musical instrument, playing a certain sport, speaking in public, cooking, driving, etc.
You need to practice to develop competence and, consequently, self-confidence in that specific topic.
Work is a great example of this. By becoming a competent professional in your area, you earn respect and have an excellent source of self-confidence in the profession.
2) Face your fears
One way to develop self-confidence is to face fear.
For example, when you were learning to ride a bicycle, you were probably afraid to remove the support wheels.
But there came a time when you had to swallow that fear and go ahead.
Until you felt totally confident and safe in the activity that walking without the support wheels became something natural and peaceful to do.
Someone who is going to jump with a parachute for the first time is very afraid, but goes and faces. Whoever has jumped many times is no longer so afraid.
Another very common area of insecurity is social interaction.
You may have difficulty talking to other people. Feels shy. He does not speak because he is afraid of being judged, of receiving contrary opinions or of not liking what you have to say.
This is a fear that also needs to be faced. You need to speak up and get involved . Hiding will not get you anywhere.
The fact is that it is necessary to leave the comfort zone. The more you push your limits the more confidence you will have.
3) Eliminate sources of insecurity
There are certain things that are a source of insecurity and that can be changed.
For example, many people feel insecure because they consider themselves to be overweight.
That’s the kind of thing that just depends on you.
Just adopt new eating and exercise habits to eliminate this source of insecurity. It may not be easy but it is within reach.
Making that effort will bring tremendous self-confidence when you start to see results.
4) Set goals and achieve them
A great source of self-confidence is our achievements.
What do you want from your life? Set some goals and go for them.
Not just professional goals, but personal ones too.
Getting a job, learning a language, buying a car …
Also set some goals smaller and easier to achieve in the short term.
For example, let’s say you want to lose weight. Set the goal of losing 1kg in the next fifteen days.
Achieving your goals brings a huge sense of self-confidence and personal power.
5) Invest in the visual
Part of self-confidence is in the visual.
Investing in personal production like a haircut, cool clothes, a perfume makes a difference when it comes to raising self-esteem.
Physical exercise to keep your body up to date is also another area of great impact.
A touch of the visual makes anyone feel better and have greater confidence in themselves.
Seeking to develop self-confidence is great.
But it is also important to accept the fact that there is no way to be confident always and in everything.
If you’ve never cooked in your life and you get cooked for the first time you will probably feel insecure right away. Okay, that’s ok.
It is important to accept that at certain times you will not be in a domain area and a new skill is being tested.
You can feel confident when driving, cooking if you cook well, playing music if you know how to play the instrument, using the computer, playing a sport etc.
Depending on your experience and skills, there will be areas in your life where you feel most confident about how to perform them.
Self-confidence is a state of mind. A healthy and achievable state.
Discovering the areas you want to have more self-confidence in and working on them specifically is a shorter way to achieve this result and start to feel more confident.